Generally speaking, there must be some unpleasant experiences in one's life. Often unhappy social relationships lead directly to these problems. If these unpleasant experiences occur in one’s childhood, they can cast a shadow on that person for life. Campus bullying is the most common one that usually happens. There are many types of bullying on campus. In addition to physical assault, which is a common form of bullying, bullying in words and behaviour can also be harmful.
Sometimes bullying and purposefully isolating a person doesn't have to be for any particular reason. I am a living example. I remember when I was in the third grade, I had an illness that caused me to stop going to school for almost a year. At that time, I naively thought that even though I was separated from my classmates for a long time, there would not be a big split between us. Gradually, I found that BECAUSE I had been away from everyone for so long, I couldn't talk about what my classmates were talking about. When I tried to understand and tried to join the conversation, I always heard "You don't understand," "We didn't talk about anything," and "It's nothing." It made me feel like I didn’t belong there. Such verbal isolation stayed with me until sixth grade, my darkest year.
That year, I had a new deskmate, who was very friendly to me. I thought that he was different from the others. Unfortunately, he wasn’t. When we got to know each other relatively well, he started asking me to help him with his homework. I mean do his homework for him. After being isolated by most of my classmates in the previous years, I had taken on an ingratiating personality. That is to say, I would try my best to meet the requirements of others, even if they require me to spend a lot of time, energy and even money. I gave in to his request. After that, he intensified his efforts, not only verbally insulting me, but also excluding me from classmates. Fortunately, I met my best friend at that time. She was like a lifeline to me. She would defend me and help me refuse the so-called requests that I had no reason to answer. I was afraid to tell my family and teachers because I was too timid and full of misgivings.
People often say that this is only a part of childhood playfulness, but using insulting nicknames, spreading rumours about others, and rallying classmates to exclude someone are indications of bullying! For the victims, every step of the way to school is like a journey to the grave.
School bullying is not totally out of the question. Please communicate with your parents more. Make them aware of the pain and struggle bullying has caused you, and if possible, move to a different environment, such as another school. Please learn to protect yourself. Too much tolerance only makes bullying worse. If someone bullies you for an absurd reason, please fight back with your most solid fist, even if you can't win.
If you are one of those people who are being bullied, don't be afraid to fight back and always believe in the good in the world. Take good care of your body, but also protect your spiritual world. Live for yourself! Love yourself and protect yourself.
Author: Ella Peng
Biography: Ella is a second-year student at Luther College High School in Regina, Saskatchewan. She takes part in the International Cafe, Math Club, and Cheese Club at her school, and some of her hobbies include reading, dancing, hip-hop, and listening to music. Ella aspires to be an orthodontic dentist in the future and is ready to work towards that goal!
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