Parental pressure is a problem that I am facing right now. It has been one of the biggest problems during my school year, since my parents do not understand what I am learning, but still want to pass their suggestions onto me. Such pressure comes from parents who are the most considerate overall, but also careless in some ways.
In my family, my mom is the one who stays at home for the whole day and takes care of all the things happening in our house. She loves me and wants to help me, but usually uses her kindness the wrong way. A few years before I came to Canada, I couldn't understand her logic since she was always angry and unsatisfied. We always fought over everything at anytime. Back then, I thought our relationship had no chance of becoming better. However, that changed after I came to Canada, and our relationship began healing because we both improved.
So what I want to say is try to find a positive balance between you and your parents. Afterall, everyone makes mistakes and we should always look within ourselves for something to work on. I understand this is a difficult process, but always remember to not be too hard on yourself. For me, a change in myself depends on a change in my environment because it leads me to suddenly understand lots of stuff that I previously neglected. Therefore, sometimes a change in someone needs a chance or an opportunity to let it happen; maybe it is a change in environment, or maybe it is an important event that happened in your family, etc. Even if you do not have this opportunity right now, it will happen in the future.
Although many people suggest the need to obey your parents because “They are your parents!” or “They gave birth to you, they gave you your life”, the best way around parental pressure is true understanding, not simple obeisance. Both parents and children have their own perspectives. We should try to encourage a middle ground that takes into account both sides, rather than just forcibly choosing one. I strongly believe that the opinions of children and their parents are equal, and that we should listen to both when making a decision. I also highly recommend giving yourself a bit of time and space to think about the relationship between you and your parents in order to determine how you can reduce parental pressure.
Author: Sally Wang
Biography: Sally Wang is a Grade 12 student from Luther College High School in Regina, Saskatchewan. She loves all things connected to art, sports and music and has been a part of her school’s Senior Choir for two years. Sally hopes that through her efforts, she will be able to make her community a better place.
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